At the core, underneath all the peacocking and negging there is something to be gleaned.
[Total Read Time: 10 minutes]
For some men they have absolutely no foundation for understanding women. No reference point, no compass, no direction to even start walking in; learning “Game” is good for these men. And I was one of these men. Game works and it will get you laid but its vastly overrated.
When a guy who has no luck with woman comes across the PUA community its guys getting laid by attractive girls writing how to do it in a way most men will understand. Written by men for men. Trying a few new pickup tips they read online said man will start to notice girls giving him more attention. “It works!” he says to himself, and yes it does. What I failed to realize when that guy was me is that this kind of improvement is exactly like improvement made when you first start hitting the gym, it’s initial success. When you start working out beginner results are easily felt and scene from the basic muscle swelling of working muscles which aren’t usually targeted. You feel stronger and feel better about yourself and may even notice a couple muscle groups growing after only a couple workout sessions. In the case of working out, the muscles aren’t used to being worked so initial gain is welcomed by the body. Picking up girls and learning “Game” works much the same way, initial gain is easily felt and easily seen.
People don’t mind when you first apply little pickup tricks and gambits because its developing a new aspect to your personality. Your guy friends might like this new found confidence but all these changes are for girls and their reaction is the true measurement of your progress. Big surprise, women and men both like ‘The spice of life’ when their friends surprisement with newly developed traits… Bet you woulda never guessed that one.
Why I hate the Manosphere…
The “Manosphere” is hard to define so I’ll loosely define it as a place where guys write about their Pick-up stories with girls, “Game” theory, and sexual exploits. I hate the Manosphere because of all the shit I have to wade through to get to the good stuff. We’ve all read a hateful post by Heartiste about immigrants, minorities, women or just about anyone who isn’t a rich, nationalistic, good-looking white guy.
I study Sociology and Social Anthropology which just saying that some of you have already dismissed me. My qualifications lend me a critical perspective I didn’t have before and thats why I mention it. If you want to dismiss me, how about we take things back to the foundation of western philosophy applying The Republic, I would say I’m a man trying to understand the foundation concepts which our society rests on.
I’ve read the material on both sides. Everything from Style, Tucker Max, years of reading Heartiste, Roosh, and VK. When I was writing by blog in the Manosphere I would have 400+ readers in a day. Now I’m reading feminist theory. The problem with using feminist in the vernacular is it suffers from the same problem as calling yourself an Egalitarianist. Too much falls under the definitions of Feminist and Egalitarian.
Things can change. We can make the structure better and more equal. There will always be room for improvement and thats no reason why we shouldn’t try improve things now. Yes, both genders are going to make mistakes and take things too far. That doesn’t mean we can’t develop greater gender equality.
I needed game and I needed the PUAs. There is a time for everything and it had its time. There is also time to understanding the perspectives of women. Why wouldn’t we want to do this? Why don’t any PUA or Manosphere sites have material written by women? Something is fundamentally flawed and it needs to be fixed.